31 Mar 2011 No Comments
A friend was asking me why is it so easy for me and Michael to kiss and make up after a fight? Why is it that if she and her husband get into a heated discussion, she’ll be so indifferent towards him for a few days?
The only reason I can come up with is maybe because I try my hardest to never allow negative feelings to crowd out my positive feelings. I don’t dwell on the negative things because I’m afraid that I may find myself swallowed up by my own bitterness or sense of injustice.
Burn your grudges because when you are holding a grudge, your feeling simmers inside of you especially if you tend to keep on returning to that thought thus, feeding your resentment. It’s quite hard to be happy when all that is on your mind is the wrong that someone has done. Constantly thinking about a person or event that made you mad only heightens the feelings and makes you more anxious. It’s just a vicious cycle and this process never gets anywhere. It just drains your energy, your ability to enjoy all the wonderful things right in front of you and worst – your relationship with those who truly loves you.
Hanging on to those grudges and bad moments are the things that lead to self destruction and relationship sabotage. Instead of carrying them around forever, we should learn to let them go.